[13] "Bhikkhus, suppose a man were in love with a woman, his mind bound to her, with intense desire (tibbacchanda) and intense longing (tibbāpekkha). He might see that woman standing with another man, conversing, joking, and laughing. What do you think, bhikkhus? Would sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief, and despair arise in that man on seeing that woman standing with another man, conversing, joking, and laughing?"
"They would, venerable sir."
"Why is that?"
"Venerable sir, because that man is in love with that woman, his mind bound to her, with intense desire and intense longing; therefore, on seeing that woman standing with another man, conversing, joking, and laughing, sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief, and despair arise in him."
"Then, bhikkhus, it might occur to that man: 'I am in love with that woman, my mind bound to her, with intense desire and intense longing. On seeing that woman standing with another man, conversing, joking, and laughing, sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief, and despair arise in me. What if I were to abandon that desire and lust (chandarāga) I have for that woman?' He would abandon that desire and lust for that woman. On a later occasion he might see that woman standing with another man, conversing, joking, and laughing. What do you think, bhikkhus? Would sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief, and despair arise in that man on seeing that woman standing with another man, conversing, joking, and laughing?"
"No, venerable sir."
"Why is that?"
"Venerable sir, because that man is without lust for that woman; therefore, on seeing that woman standing with another man, conversing, joking, and laughing, sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief, and despair would not arise in him."
English translation from the Pali (Siam Raṭṭha edition) — under review, not for citation.