[54] Bhikkhus, there are these four kinds of living together. What four? A wretch (chava) lives together with a female wretch; a wretch lives together with a female deva (devī); a deva lives together with a female wretch; a deva lives together with a female deva.
And how, bhikkhus, does a wretch live together with a female wretch? Here, bhikkhus, the husband is one who destroys life, takes what is not given, engages in sexual misconduct, speaks falsely, speaks maliciously, speaks harshly, indulges in frivolous talk; he is covetous, of malevolent mind (citta), holds wrong view; he is immoral, of bad character; he dwells at home with a heart obsessed by the stain of miserliness, abusing and reviling ascetics and brahmins. And his wife too is one who destroys life, takes what is not given, engages in sexual misconduct, speaks falsely, speaks maliciously, speaks harshly, indulges in frivolous talk; she is covetous, of malevolent mind, holds wrong view; she is immoral, of bad character; she dwells at home with a heart obsessed by the stain of miserliness, abusing and reviling ascetics and brahmins. It is in this way, bhikkhus, that a wretch lives together with a female wretch.
And how, bhikkhus, does a wretch live together with a female deva? Here, bhikkhus, the husband is one who destroys life, takes what is not given … he dwells at home with a heart obsessed by the stain of miserliness, abusing and reviling ascetics and brahmins. But his wife is one who abstains from the destruction of life, abstains from taking what is not given, abstains from sexual misconduct, abstains from false speech, abstains from malicious speech, abstains from harsh speech, abstains from frivolous talk; she is not covetous, of a mind without malevolence, holds right view; she is virtuous, of good character; she dwells at home with a heart free of the stain of miserliness, not abusing or reviling ascetics and brahmins. It is in this way, bhikkhus, that a wretch lives together with a female deva.
And how, bhikkhus, does a deva live together with a female wretch? Here, bhikkhus, the husband is one who abstains from the destruction of life, abstains from taking what is not given, abstains from sexual misconduct, abstains from false speech, abstains from malicious speech, abstains from harsh speech, abstains from frivolous talk; he is not covetous, of a mind without malevolence, holds right view; he is virtuous, of good character; he dwells at home with a heart free of the stain of miserliness, not abusing or reviling ascetics and brahmins. But his wife is one who destroys life … she dwells at home with a heart obsessed by the stain of miserliness, abusing and reviling ascetics and brahmins. It is in this way, bhikkhus, that a deva lives together with a female wretch.
And how, bhikkhus, does a deva live together with a female deva? Here, bhikkhus, the husband is one who abstains from the destruction of life … he dwells at home with a heart free of the stain of miserliness, not abusing or reviling ascetics and brahmins. And his wife too is one who abstains from the destruction of life … not abusing or reviling ascetics and brahmins. It is in this way, bhikkhus, that a deva lives together with a female deva. These, bhikkhus, are the four kinds of living together.
When both are immoral,
miserly and abusive,
then husband and wife
live together as wretches.
When the husband is immoral,
miserly and abusive,
but the wife is virtuous,
charitable, rid of miserliness,
she is a devī who lives together
with a wretch for a husband.
When the husband is virtuous,
charitable, rid of miserliness,
but the wife is immoral,
miserly and abusive,
she is a wretch who lives together
with a deva for a husband.
When both have faith and are charitable,
self-restrained, living by the Dhamma,
then husband and wife
speak endearing words to each other;
abundant benefits accrue to them,
and ease arises for them;
their enemies are dejected
when both are equal in virtue.
Having practiced the Dhamma here,
both equal in virtue and observance,
they delight in the deva world,
rejoicing, enjoying the sensual pleasures they desire.
English translation from the Pali (Siam Raṭṭha edition) — under review, not for citation.